This week I received a call from someone who found my website and really needed some support. It was apparent in the first moments of the call, this person was suffering…and my heart went out to her. It did not take long to see why and the fact is that almost everyone experiences what this person shared with me at one time or another and it is what this person became acutely aware of on the day we talked.
You know that place between where you have been and where you are going? You wake up one day or over a period of days or years to realize that you are capable of far more than you have allowed yourself so far. I’ve heard it so many times with the people I have worked with and lived it myself. Whether it is a long term relationship, a career, a group of people or even living in your own skin that doesn’t seem to fit anymore… The growing pains and the ache of unrealized potential can shake you to your core.
The fear and discomfort alone is enough to have us running for the carbs, the next guy or girl or even the stereotypical convertible. All to fill the hole of the past we just left behind. It might be what some have defined as a midlife crisis… and while it may not feel good or easy it serves a purpose that is often misunderstood. I see it as an opportunity to grow and expand and see just what you are made of.
This does comes with some side effects that if avoided can be detrimental to your growth, expansion and pursuit of happiness. First you need to bask in the un-comfortableness of not knowing PERIOD… and I mean not knowing. Try that on for a moment… feel like running? Or has your mind just gone into overdrive grasping at straws and saying yeah but? Or maybe you’re tempted to stop reading now?…. I understand… I do and there is something special about this wide open space called the unknown that few of us allow ourselves because of the fears, anxiety, the avoiding with the tricky seductive carbs, flings and convertibles.
Okay, back to what is so special about this space called the unknown. It is in this space that the new has room to show up. That’s big don’t you think? So often it is tempting to go back to what you know or settle for less than what you want. But what if it is in this space and this space only… you get the bits and pieces or the epiphany that changes the course of your life.
Once you get the bits and pieces, the AHA’s then you LEAP. The truth is if we practice leaping often… like the apple a day theory, it may have prevented the crisis or the sudden uncomfortable awareness that we are not where we want to be. It is as if all those leaps we thought of taking… but didn’t, caught up with us to say, “you still have time”… what will you do with it?
So that is the question right? Whether you are in the murky middle… the in between or even just starting to feel an ache or longing for something more. You are being invited into the unknown even if just to be curious, to know something you didn’t know before and when you know then and only then you have an opportunity to LEAP.
You still have time… What will you do with it?
Wendi
The Bliss Chick
P.S. For help with painful discomfort and side effects or to remove the fear of leaping I recommend joining me at the next Bliss Bootcamp!
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